On a date queries are like these are pretty obvious; ‘What should you wear? Where should you meet? How much should you speak? Who should pay? How soon after your first date should you call?’ There are numerous questions that can spin around your head before, during and after a date. It’s normally a mixed feeling of nervousness and curiosity on your first date. Some of the following list might work for men on his first date.
- First impression
Sometimes you’ve got to get rid from your lucky stuffs if they seem to create a bad first impression on your date. It’s not about pretending to be someone else but respecting a girl and her point of view where she would like to see that a guy who takes pride in his appearance. This doesn’t mean you have to overdo your get up; but having a shower, shave, using aftershave and putting on something suitable will help you impress your date and get you off to a good start is always helpful followed by punctuality.
- Comfortable place
It is a women’s psychological factor that they like the men to decide on where to on a date even though making the woman chose might sound kind and nice. As dating can be a daunting experience, try on a place where just your date and you have your ‘own time’. This will help make you feel more comfortable. Avoid the regular night pubs or restaurants because meeting your friends and mates could divert your goal of dating.
- Confidence factor
Women often get attracted to guys who are extrovert, confident and strong. So, for a shy and introvert guy, a little practice beforehand could help. Choose a topic that could help your date become interesting, a topic like: hobby because the girl can obviously sense your confidence as you talk passionately about it. Confidence in your appearance is also another factor that attracts a woman because it shows how comfortable you are in your own skin
Yes, it’s true that women like extrovert people but it doesn’t give you the liberty on a date to do all the talking. Try to be concise and to-the-point. Be very careful since this can be really boring to your date because this date offers many opportunities to share your stories in the future. You can keep adding in between the conversation but don’t do the entire conversation leaving her not to speak because listening to your date always shows how much you want to hear about her.
It’s important to understand that though the conversation is just concise and short; men should realize that the short conversations should be fun and loving and not irritating for your date. Try to keep your conversation light-hearted. Don’t being your personal issues on your first date itself. Women like guys who have a good sense of humour. Seriousness would be good in the later stages of relationship; so for the starting a bit of fun would be more interesting.
Men need to be honest for sure but that would not be important for the first time to your date. Hence, your date will not be interested in this matter in the first visit itself and thus, it can make things feel odd. However, if your date does bring up the subject, try to keep answers short (without appearing suspicious). Be honest and clear and reassure her that your past is history and that you want to spend your time getting to know her instead.
Certain etiquettes and mannerism is always something that matters to any lady, hence nothing could be as annoying as the phones ringing whilst trying to spend quality time out on a date. Switching off your phone completely would make her feel that she is attentively heard and that the date is quite important for him. After all, who wouldn’t love being paid attention to!
- Pay offer
Times have changed so most women will look forward to paying for their share of the bill. However, on your first date, be a gentlemen enough and insist on treating her (although don’t be forceful). But, if she still wants to pay, kindly suggest her to treat on your next date, this will also show your interest on meeting her again and spending times…
Be honest, if you don’t want a second date, don’t say that you’ll call her. Both of you shall feel bad and the worse is she might get hurt, have a positive note expressed as: “I had a great time tonight”. And, if you do want to see her again, don’t play games of having a couple of days in between to contact each other because this is 2016. So, if you don’t contact her within a couple of days, you’ll seem like you don’t care and that you didn’t enjoy the date. The sooner you contact her, the better.
- Feedback from a female friend
Dating is not something we can easily learn or we can easily have it get going, it takes time so why not ask a female friend. She may help to discuss about your last date, where you went, what you did and what you talked about. Everyone has different opinions, but it can always help to give you some useful feedback on how to be better on your next date.
Hence, take a deep breath, stay relaxed, try to enjoy more and simply, just go for it !…