Asking her what she needs you to change
When a man asks a woman what he needs to do to make her stop being so distant, be more affectionate, be in love with him like she used to, in most cases, she’s not going to tell them the real answer.
The main reason why is that a woman doesn’t want to be a guy’s teacher in life about how to be a man.
Another reason why is that in many cases she is embarrassed to tell him what she really wants.
For example: Sometimes a woman finds herself in a relationship with a guy who has become a bit of a pushover. He has become insecure and he doesn’t feel very confident in his attractiveness to her anymore and he puts up with her bad behavior just so he can stay with her.
What she would like to tell him is, “Hey, I actually need you to stop being so insecure about your attractiveness to me. I need you to believe in yourself and I need you to not put up with my BS. If I get out of line, I need you to put me back in my place in a dominant, but loving, way. I don’t want you screaming at me and getting aggressive, but I want you to put me back in my place in a dominant, but loving, way. I want you to make sure that you don’t let me walk all over you.”
Most women are embarrassed to admit that they want that sort of thing.
Likewise, most women don’t actually want to take on the teacher role for a guy and say, “Alright, look. Sit down. I’ll teach you how to be a man. This is what I need from you…”
She doesn’t want to take on that role because it’ll make her feel like his big sister or mother or teacher.
She wants to feel like she’s his woman.
She wants to be able to look up to him and respect him as her man.
She doesn’t want to look down on him as a boy or a little brother or a confused guy that she has to continually lift up and guide as they go through life.
She just wants a man who understands how to be a man now or a guy who is willing to figure it out and then start doing it.
So, if you’re in a situation where your woman wants to break up with you, do not rely on asking her what she wants you to do because she will either not be able to tell you because she’s embarrassed or she won’t want to tell you because she doesn’t want to feel like your mother or big sister.
The second mistake is becoming extra nice, sweet, or considerate. Third one, doing extra chores around the house.
Now, I’ll go into detail with the 4th mistake….